real mothers

we often say that being a father takes more than just providing sperm.

to that i’d like to add that being a mother takes more than birthing a child. we all know the stories of women that throw their babies down toilets, leave them on church doorsteps, abandon them to relatives… we all have harsh words for those women. i’m pretty ambivalent about these woman BUT actually these aren’t the women that i want to talk about.  Continue reading

the children of black mothers

my mother was a domestic worker. in her working life time, she raised many white children as well as her own children and the children of relatives.

i’ve wondered why it is that all these other women, the world over, need the help of black women to raise their children? this i wondered while i was standing in a queue on saturday night and there was this indian woman with her baby and a Continue reading